Rethinking Courtship

Courtship is a two-way street.


We are used to the idea of courting between a pursuer and a “pursuee”. This connotes the idea that the pursuer has stronger desires to be with the pursuee and that the latter is a passive participant in this process.


This maybe true for some but nowadays courtship is between two people who BOTH want to explore romantic possibilities with each other. BOTH persons have the responsibility of exerting effort in expressing fondness, reciprocating sweetness and proving that they are BOTH sincere in their intentions.


Ang problema minsan sa mga bakla, gusto mag-maganda. Nagpapaka-Maria Clara sa panahon ni Eva Fonda. Or minsan plain selfish, narcissistic. Laging iniisip ang kung ano ginagawa ng “manliligaw” para bigyan siya ng magandang pakiramdam at nakakalimutan na meron din siyang parte in proving himself din as a person worth the efforts and emotions. If nagpapakilala siya ng sarili nya, ikaw rin nagpapakilala sa kanya.


Para lang itong pakikipagkapwa, do unto others what you want others to do unto you. If you only think of your emotions, your happiness and your context, then you are not ready to be in a relationship where giving, showing, considering and understanding another soul is a requirement. Be single na lang where loving yourself, being sweet to yourself and embracing yourself is the norm.


If you want him too, galaw-galaw ka naman! Paramdam ka! Help nurture what you are both feeling and wanting to achieve in your budding relationship.